Crowded Classes, Busted Voices, Kid-less Adults: Storytime Ninjas explain it all

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Click through to hear Michelle, Natasha and I talk about crowded storytimes, taking care of your voice, and what to do about child-less adults crashing your kids’ programs.

Thanks to the kind folks at Storytime Underground for letting me act like someone who knows what they’re talking about!

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~Love and Libraries, Ingrid

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In honor of Harry Potter’s impending mid-life crisis and birthday, steal my quiz!

DANG, Harry Potter, you’re getting old as hell (but not as old as me, which is kinda depressing). We have an upcoming Harry Potter party at our library, and I’ve done nothing in preparation other than come up with this quiz. You’re welcome, other librarians I work with. For the party, I’ll be busting out my old fake fortune teller schtick, which I’ve done for a previous HP party (as Professor Trelawney) and a Diviners party (as some weirdo). I’m getting awfully good at making up crap fortunes: “Uh…you’re fighting with your parents a lot….uh….you’re about to lose your favorite pair of socks…uh…that gum you like is going to come back in style…” My skills are super impressive.

Anyway, if you’re looking to use a Harry Potter quiz with your kids/tweens/teens, feel free to steal mine! Answers at the bottom.

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Code of Conduct Survey Results: Just the Numbers

With very little comment, here are  the results of the Code of Conduct survey, which sought responses from ALA Conference attendees. I asked ten questions, referring to experiences with ALA Code of Conduct violations at conferences. The violations could occur before or after the dawn of the CoC. Responses were anonymous. I never saw anyone’s name or place of work or ALA division or any other identifying information (unless the person insisted on including it, which happened in some cases. I will not include these specifics in upcoming posts). According to Survey Monkey, I received 321 responses.

Many of the questions were taken directly from the Code of Conduct itself. Wording and phrases that some respondents described as “vague” were often cut-and-pasted from the CoC. For example, many survey-users asked for me to define “harassment”, but I deliberately used the wording from the actual CoC. I added very little embellishment or clarification. I admittedly botched questions 5+6, regarding the treatment of those who speak at ALA panels and the like. I was trying to cover every term and phrase that the CoC mentioned, but I should have approached the questions in a different manner. Sadly, once the first person answers your survey, Survey Monkey no longer allows you to edit your questions. My apologies. I did glean some good anecdotes from questions 5+6, but I won’t be sharing the statistics from those questions as they’re unhelpful and irrelevant.

For those who hadn’t seen the original survey, I will now post the questions (even my botched 5+6), followed by a series of charts (some by Survey Monkey, one by me as I try to pick out common themes in the user-submitted anecdotes).

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Sure, let’s close the libraries and just get everyone an Amazon Kindle Unlimited Subscription

I’ve been a librarian for over five years, and have fought like a maniac to keep libraries in NYC open. Money has been scarce in NY for a long time, and library budgets are only just starting to level out. My system had some very un-fun layoff scares (while some systems have had actual layoffs), stunted hours, lack of materials, and massive staff shortages. To combat this, my colleagues and I have stayed up all night reading, dressed up as zombies and lumbered over the Brooklyn Bridge, and took part in a number of other tactics to help keep NYC libraries open and staffed. I really believe in the power of libraries and how they can transform lives and communities, but hey, when someone has a super good idea on how to save us all some money, I’m all ears. The super-good-idea haver is one Tim Worstall and he’s really knocking it out of the park with his idea to just shut down those dusty, ghost-town book depositories we call libraries and replace them with unlimited Kindle subscriptions for everyone!

Tim Worstall, bringing the noise and the funk, concurrently.

Tim Worstall, bringing the noise and the funk, concurrently.

Says Worstall:

More titles, easier access and quite possibly a saving of public funds. Why wouldn’t we simply junk the physical libraries and purchase an Amazon Kindle Unlimited subscription for the entire country?

I can’t argue with logic, can you? I don’t know about everybody else, but I think it’s time to just start converting these libraries in fro-yo places and just getting on with it already.

Now, maybe I’m kinda a Ludite, so you might have to explain this to me, but Amazon Kindle subscriptions are more than just books, right? I mean, yeah, you can get e-books and audiobooks and stuff, but it does tons more, correct?

Like, for example, the Kindle sits your kids down teaches them how to code, right? In a sort of fun, accessible, hands-on manner? And helps those same kids to learn how to invest their money? And provides activities for kids with a variety of abilities? And makes sure that kids who need free meals have them during the summer?

And Amazon provides a safe place for kids to go after school, no? Just like a safe haven they can go to until their parents pick them up. I might be wrong, but while the kids are somehow safely ensconced inside the Kindle, Amazon employees provide them with a free computer and WiFi use and research/homework assistance. I think.

And it’s not just for adults. Where many organizations and search engines fail, Kindle is there for your specialized research needs.

And in the case of a natural disaster, where you might lose your belongings and your home and have no access to WiFi and other resources, Amazon totally has your back, right?

One of the nicer things that the Kindle subscription does is help you find jobs. Thanks, Amazon!

And, correct me if I’m wrong, but Amazon is extremely supportive of the homeless community.

And if you don’t have a Kindle, Amazon will totally lend you a free Kindle. No problem. Amazon understands that you don’t have money for a Kindle!

I mean, if this unlimited Kindle subscription can not only lend us books, but provide safe places for our kids, educate us, help close the digital divide, provide specialized research assistance, help us in natural disasters, find us jobs, help the homeless population AND lend us free Kindles, then, well damn. I, for one, welcome our Amazon overlords.

Thanks, Tim Worstall! You’re the Best-all.

Oh, and one more thing, just as a little reminder:

I was just joking this whole time. Libraries are so much more than books, while Kindles, which are pretty OK, are *only* books. Thanks for listening.

I was just joking this whole time. Libraries are so much more than books, while Kindles, which are pretty OK, are *only* books. Thanks for listening.

~Love and Kindles…Libraries, Ingrid

P.S. Feel free to add your own reasons why libraries can offer so much more than an e-book subscription ever could.

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Someone #NotAllMen-ed Our Library’s Anti-date Violence Poster

Yup. Someone took our poster about date violence and #NotAllMen-ed the hell out of it.



In light of this, I thought I’d share a helpful resource for anyone working with youth in NYC. It’s called Day One, and it exists to end dating abuse and domestic violence. These kinds of violence are serious issues, not just in NYC, but in the country at large.

Some national statistics:

  • In a study of young women seeking family planning services, 53% of young women reported experiencing physical or sexual partner violence.
  • Women aged 16-24 experience the highest per capita rate of intimate partner violence, triple the national average.
  • A woman is more likely to be injured, raped or killed by a current or former partner than by any other person.
  • Girls reported that their dating partners were the ones who started the abuse 70% of the time; whereas boys reported their dating partners to be initiators of abuse only 27% of the time. The boys were much more likely to state that they initiated incidents. For boys reporting they had been subject to a partner’s use of physical violence, 17% percent reported that the reason for this violence was because they (i.e. the boys) had been making sexual advances toward the dating partner.

Check out some of Day One’s very helpful guides here.

And remember, gentlemen, if your only response to violence against women is “WELL WHAT ABOUT ME!?!?!?”, you need to reevaluate your priorities. You don’t need to be the center of every single discussion.


~Love and Libraries, Ingrid

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Self Care for Teens: If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?

RuPaul's words of wisdom now reside over the YA reference desk.

RuPaul’s words of wisdom now reside over the YA reference desk.

If you are one of the seven people who read this blog, you know that I like to do a “hot topic” display at the YA reference desk. I’ve covered body image, racism, LGBTQ  pride, and other topics. This time around, I decided to talk about the concept of self care. In addition to the display, I finally decided to add a pathfinder and a BiblioCommons list as well. I don’t know why it took me so long to add these other options. They seem like a necessary and logical addition to the display.

Look, everyone! I’m learning how to make stuff better.

I feel like Self Care is a touchy subject in general, not only with teens. There’s a need to never show weakness or ever ask for help when we’re overwhelmed. Yet, the best way we can be good to others is to first take good care of ourselves. I did some research on Self Care and came up with this pathfinder:

Within the pathfinder, I included a definition of Self Care and why it’s important, the 12 Steps for Self Care (I’ve also seen them listed as 10 Steps, but I saw 12 more often), and ideas for how one can take better care of themselves:

If you’d like the actual word document (I know the screencap of it is kinda blurry), just hit me up on my contact page.

The flip-side has a list of relevant library books, which again, can be found in this BiblioCommons list.

For the actual display, I borrowed/stole heavily from Calming Manatee, Emm Roy, and Skeletor is Love. Along with the search term “Self Care” I also used “Positive Affirmations”. I made an extra effort to find images featuring POC. Take a look:

Full Maya Angelou quote here if you are interested.

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Survey: Documenting Code of Conduct Violations at ALA Conferences

My wallet a smidge lighter, my skin a tiny bit more sunburned, and my heart a whole bunch more inspired by my fellow librarians, I am back from the ALA conference in Vegas. I had a pretty great time: I went to the Stonewall Book Awards brunch (and sat next to Ken Setterington!), I got to introduce Sara Farizan in a panel, AND I got lots of work done with Kyle on his upcoming project.

Oh, and uh, yeah. I got sexually harassed. Twice. Once by a fellow librarian at the conference hall. I was touched without consent. I was told a couple of things that were pretty unsettling and kissed all over my hands in a super-sloppy-spitty manner. It was gross. The other time was by a non-librarian who was an attendee. It was also gross. It was just a comment, but it was bad enough that I would have reported it in my place of work.

This is not my first conference and this is not my first time being harassed.

I don’t think people know how wide-spread harassment is at conferences. When I relayed the story of the librarian touching me at the conference hall, most male librarians were shocked. Female librarians expressed sympathy and then usually shared similar (or worse!) stories with me. However, I am not naive enough to believe that those who identify as female are the only ones who are harassed, intimidated, threatened, or even physically attacked at conferences. Homophobia, racism, transphobia, and able-ism can also occur.

Being harassed can be a shock to the system. I consider myself a total loudmouth who is assertive and outspoken. However, when harassed or touched or mistreated, I can freeze. I can forget what to do. I might start nervously laughing (which might make me look like I’m enjoying my harasser’s attention!). I may look around to see if there are any witnesses. I might choose to just flee the area. I haven’t, however, reported my harassment. Not even once. It’s never that easy for me. I would have appreciated signs up in the conference hall telling me who to contact if something unsafe occurred. It may have jostled me out of my shock and into action.

I am a big fan of the Hollaback! project and wondered why librarians weren’t collectively documenting their experiences with harassment at conferences. While I appreciate the presence of the Code of Conduct (even though some people just don’t get why it exists), I am not convinced that it’s enough. We, as attendees, need an added layer of awareness.

In the spirit of Hollaback!, I have created this survey. If you have experienced or witnessed any Code of Conduct violations, I am asking you to take part. It’s only 10 questions (because I couldn’t afford the upgrade, sadly), but hopefully it will give us a better understanding of what can occur at ALA conferences. Answers will be kept anonymous. If you choose to include any personal information (which you don’t have to and probably shouldn’t), I promise not to share it with anybody: not on my blog, not with my coworkers, not with my partner, not with my cat. Nobody. Any anecdotes that I receive will have any and all identifying information removed. This includes names and specific event characteristics (I may mention what city it occurred in if it seems relevant, but I won’t include names of events or divisions).

will however share non-specific stories and anecdotes. I will share statistics and the like in an upcoming blog post should people actually take the time to fill it out. If you’re concerned about sharing something publicly, do whatever feels safe. Many results will be included in a public post on this blog. For your protection, it’s best to keep things vague. No names, nothing too specific.

I know this survey won’t be super scientific and there’s probably some components I should have included. I tried to leave lots of wiggle room in the survey so that every kind of story can be told. Still, if there’s something you’d like to express but can’t find a good place on the survey to do so, feel free to hit me up elsewhere.

I’m not out to shame ALA staff or council members with this survey. I am not out to combat the Code of Conduct because I think it’s extremely necessary and I’m glad it’s in place.  What I am out to do is raise some awareness among conference attendees. I want to get a better grip on what conference harassment and intimidation looks like.

Please fill out this survey and share it with other ALA conferences attendees, past and present. I’m not sure what the survey results are going to look like. Maybe no one will fill it out. Maybe we’ll find that conditions aren’t as bad as I thought. I haven’t the slightest idea, but I’ll let you know when I find out.

~Love and Libraries, Ingrid

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Kyle Cassidy’s Portrait Sessions in Vegas: Starring You and Your Favorite Librarians


Do you want Kyle Cassidy of Slate’s This is What a Librarian Looks Like-fame to take your portrait at ALA Vegas? Do you know a librarian who would be great for this project? Sure you do! Click here to see where and when he’ll be photographing.

Oh, and did I mention that Kyle has gotten NEIL FREAKING GAIMAN to narrate this documentary?

It’s a fact, sons!

There’s still time to fund the Kickstarter. The Kickstarter money will fund the portraits, a documentary, AND stock photos for library use. So, donate and share like the wind.

See you in Vegas!

~Love and Libraries, Ingrid

I AM READING THIS SO HARD RIGHT NOW: Three Picture Books You Need for Your Collection This Very Second

After my first go-round on the Rainbow List, one of my major complaints was that we weren’t receiving many picture book submissions (I believe we only got two last year, and out of those, only one had LGBTQ content. It was a bummer). I was also dissatisfied with the number of books that featured People of Color. It seemed that way too many titles revolved around white, cisgendered men. I was yearning for more protagonists that were black or Asian or Latino or…anything.

Well, someone heard my prayers, because I have been blessed with three offerings that have restored my faith in picture books (for a while, anyway. I’ll be fussy by as soon as next month). If they’re not on your radar, I insist you order them right now. Your collection desperately needs these titles. If you don’t think you have LGBTQ folks in your neighborhood, you’re wrong. Even if that were the case, we owe it to the children and families that frequent our libraries to have rich, diverse collections. Hey, everyone, #weneeddiversebooks.

I have to be honest, I was wary of another “boy in a dress” book. Our library has a few of them with varying quality and appeal. Sometimes I feel that featuring a boy in a dress is talking around homosexuality/queerness/trans-ness instead of about it. But, with weekly stories about kids being kicked out of school (Or reprimanded. Or shamed) due to their manner of dress, apparently books like this are still very much needed, though possibly more for the world’s adults more than the children.

Morris Micklewhite and the Tangerine Dressby Christine Baldacchino, is indeed a “boy in a dress book”, but its dreamy illustrations help it stand out from the others. It’s super lush and beautiful. By the end of the read, you’ll be wanting to live in Morris’ world of cats and elephants and spaceships. Plus, his dress looks like orange cotton candy.

Morris and his tangerine cloud of a gown.

Morris and his tangerine cloud of a gown.

I want to be part of his world.

I want to be part of his world.

Not Every Princess exists in sort of the same vein as Morris Micklewhite, in that it tackles gender identity and gender presentation. While Morris has a plot and dialogue, Not Every Princess simply introduces us to a number of children who see no limits to how they experience life. Gender stereotypes are not talked about explicitly. Instead, the reader is simply told that girls can be tough and boys can be gentle and vice versa. Some princesses are strong. Some knights are kind. Traditional gender roles don’t prevent us from being our fully realized selves.

Not Every Princess features one of the most diverse casts of characters I’ve seen in a long time. I adore the sweet faces on all these children:

As a children's librarian, I see a lot of cute every day. I'm practically immune to cute. These kids are next level adorable!

As a children’s librarian, I see a lot of cute every day. I’m practically immune to cute. These kids are next level adorable!

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Little Reminders Everywhere: Want your kids to read? Let them choose their own books

It’s time again to share another early literacy tip! Every month, I post a sign behind the reference desk that features a short suggestion on how caregivers can help their kids become better and more engaged readers. This month, I talked about the power of choice:

Now, I’m not talking assigned reading for school here. I’m talking about a child picking up a book to read in their spare time and the parent or caregiver rejecting the book. If you want a child that reads for fun, you need to let them have a say in what they read. If you’re bringing home a stack of books from the library, at least half should be books that the child has chosen on their own.

I often see parents and caregivers disapproving of books that their children pick. Sometimes the parents want books that contain more serious content (Ibsen for toddlers, anyone?). Other times, adults complain that the book is above or below their child’s reading level (“Put that down. That’s for big kids!”). Here’s what I’ve witnessed just in the past week:

  • A parent complaining to me that his six year old daughter loves to read (what a complaint, right?), but she’ll only pick up books that have tons of fart and poop jokes.
  • A nanny telling me that her boss asked her to bring home “the best book for four year olds. The book that will make them love reading.” Upon further questioning, the nanny told me that she takes care of two young kids who don’t like to read (and apparently aren’t read to, but that’s a whole other problem). The parents are desperate for some “good, educational picture books” because they want to get the girls into a good pre-school.

Oy vey. This is the kind of stuff that is turning my hair (somewhat) prematurely grey. I am always baffled when a parent complains to me that their child only reads tons of one kind of book. Let’s be happy that they’re reading and that they love to read, even if it’s non-stop toilet humor. If your kid loves wrestling, fart jokes, princesses, dinosaurs, cats or trucks, then use that interest to help you choose books that they’ll devour. So what if they’re a little obsessive about a certain topic? Children operate in phases. When they’re 10, they’re probably not going to be into what they were interested in at six (If that’s how people operated, I’d be a ballerina instead of a librarian. I am a not a ballerina, in case you were wondering. I am extremely ungraceful and tend to walk into my fridge every single morning). Unless they’re picking up copies of The Anarchist Cookbook, try not to get too concerned.  So, until they move on to their next serial fascination, let them read whatever strikes their fancy. Don’t let them associate reading with you constantly saying “no”. If  the topic is a bit immature, so be it. Childhood is a great time to be immature.

As for the nanny of the non-readers, I begged her to bring the 4 year old twins to the library and let them choose their own books (or at least have the kids send the nanny in with a list of requests). If there was just one book that made kids interested in reading, we’d carry 1,000 copies of just that book and all us children’s librarians would be out of a job. Forcing your child to read a specific book is just going to make the both of you miserable. The threat of not getting into a good pre-school has spawned exactly zero lifetime readers. I don’t have the numbers to back up that claim, but, trust.

Like the LeVar Burton of early literacy displays, I don’t want you to take my word for it. Scholastic is TOTALLY on my side here:

Also, check out this article entitled Parents ‘must let children choose what they read’It’s a great read overall, complete with these helpful suggestions:

Picture 3See? I’m totally not making this stuff up.

~Love and Libraries, Ingrid

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