All My Valentine’s Day Posts in One Convenient Place


I’m here for your Valentine’s Day programming and display needs, whether they are of the “Love is Great” or of the “Love Sucks” variety.

♥ Remember when I put Amanda Lepore in a YA display? Here’s LGBTQ titles you’ll love.



♥ Several posts on preparing for and throwing an Anti-Valentine’s Day party. Playlist included! Click here, here, and here.


And last, ideas for throwing a toddler valentine’s dance.


~Love and Libraries, Ingrid

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Tree Octopuses, Hate Sites, Agatha Ann Cunningham: The “Oh, C’MON!” Menagerie of Information Literacy

Librarians aren’t in the business of books; we’re in the business of information. If that information is in a book, that’s cool. But if it’s not, we’re here to help you determine if it’s the kind of information you can trust. Last school year, for whatever reason, I was mostly doing class visits for elementary school aged students: lots of storytimes and tours and talks about what a library can offer. This year, I’m getting the older kids: mostly middle school and high school. Their teachers want  database and internet research demonstrations. During these demos, I’ve learned what many of you educators already know: HOLY SHIT. Students don’t know how to navigate the internet or conduct simple research. They are without a clue. It is terrifying.

I typically start by asking how they, the students, begin their research. Whether it’s a fancy charter/private school or a NYC public school, whether they’re honors students or not, they all seem to start on their phone. They type whatever into the search box (Google and were mentioned as search engines of preference) and…that’s it. That is it, my friends. That’s their process. Sometimes they’ll mention using Wikipedia. Sometimes not. They dig into the first couple of search engine results and call it a day. This is a sad state of affairs.

We’re often told that this generation of teens grew up with computers. They have some sort of innate, built-in expertise. This is crap.They need more instruction than we realize. Often, when I’m working at the reference desk, a teen will inform me that their computer is broken (Nope! Someone just turned off the monitor! Let me hit that button for you, kid). I have tried to teach more than one teen to cut and paste into a word document. I’ll find them navigating to the most (seemingly) random and bizarre sites for their homework. How did they get there? What are they even doing? Who taught them this is OK?

I use two main sites to talk about information literacy: the Save the Pacific Northwest Tree Octopus site (which is a hoax-site) and the Martin Luther site (which I won’t link to, because it’s a repulsive hate-site. Click at your own risk).


When presenting the tree octopus site, I talk about it as if it’s a real endangered species. I click around the page, showing them pictures (like the one above), talking about how their natural predators are sasquatches, and point to other elements that should set off some red lights. I’m DYING for a student to say to me, “You’re full of shit. This is fake. That’s a stuffed animal shoved into a pine tree and sasquatches aren’t real.” No one ever does. I’ve even tricked some teachers. After I admit that it’s a hoax site, we explore the elements that point to the site’s lack of credibility. If the teens are old enough, I’ll briefly show them the  MLK, JR. .org hate-site as an example of potentially harmful sites out there. The MLK site is particularly troubling, as it typically shows up in Google’s top 7 or so hits for Martin Luther King. Also, the .org component of the website can lend an illusion of credibility to what’s actually a bunch of white supremacist nonsense.

I compare the internet to the streets of NYC. It’s a public place, and everyone is allowed to congregate there and say whatever they want, without filter. Sure, you’ll run into a bunch of pretty smart characters, but you’ll also meet the town crazies. You can’t believe everyone you meet on the street. You need to choose your company wisely, because not everyone on the internet can be trusted.

Which brings me to Agatha. Remember Agatha? I’ve been talking a lot about Agatha. I hope you’ve figured out by now that Agatha Ann Cunningham, the ghost of Brooklyn Public Library, is fake. Yup, our teen interns Roger and Peter made this awesome mockumentary about a little girl who disappeared in my library and was never seen again. The video has tricked a lot of people, but it’s true. Agatha Cunningham never existed.

During our viewing of the Agatha movie this past Halloween, I waited nervously, for a student to “out” Agatha as a hoax. We even had a panel of Agatha “experts” (Ivy, Howard, Rich, and Deloris from the movie) answering questions from the teens. We hoped this would open up a dialogue about the validity of the story. Not a single teen expressed disbelief or questioned our story. My coworker Leigh and I were open to outing the Agatha story as a fake if the teens simply showed signs of skepticism. They did not. In fact, an adult in the audience suggested that we hire an exorcist.

An incident that makes this entire Agatha debacle more discouraging involves a discussion Leigh had with a local journalist. We were under the assumption that the journalist was going to write up something like “Come to the library and see a scary movie” as a plug for our program. Instead, she was about to write an article about Agatha as if she were a real person. Here’s the thing about Agatha: that picture is actually that of our former coworker. Information about Agatha Ann Cunningham can’t be found outside of our library’s website, the Youtube link, a Facebook page that we made, and a couple of hits on my own blog. Agatha can’t be found in the Center for Missing and Exploited Children or in the New York Times or any local Brooklyn paper. So why would this journalist think Agatha was real?

If adults who call themselves journalists can’t navigate the world of information literacy, how can we expect teens to? The journalist based her assumptions about Agatha based on interviews with two of our librarians (both of whom were playing along with the ghost story because they were kind of confused by the journalist’s line of questioning) and not much else. She didn’t even see the 13 minute video, which is just poor research on her behalf. The journalist finally asked Leigh if the ghost story was real. Leigh said no.

Instead of thanking Leigh for preventing her from writing a pretty embarrassing article, the journalist proceeded to write up a nasty little essay in which she called us “lie-brarians” and “book-minders” responsible for “perpetrating an elaborate hoax”. Nice, no? She patted herself on the back for “debunking” the Agatha story. Though, is it really a debunking if the librarian flat-out tells you that it’s fake? Crackerjack journalism here, folks. I won’t link to her article because I’m not giving her any more hits for blowing up our spot and almost derailing our entire event.

I’d like to congratulate our teens, Roger and Peter, for making such an awesome video that had most of Brooklyn (and a journalist, too!) totally duped. Other than being proud of our former interns, I’m feeling pretty glum about the state of teens, information literacy skills, and research. Until they can confidently single out tree octopuses and little girl ghosts as fakes, librarians have a long, long way to go.

~Love and Libraries, Ingrid

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P.S. Shout out to this guy on the Youtube page for Agatha. Nobody listened to you. Nobody cared. I see you, guy. I appreciate you:

Such language!
Such language!

It’s Time for a Body Positive Brooklyn: Look, I finished that display, finally.

Remember that display that I startedThe “Stop Hating Your Body” display? Well, it’s done and officially up in the library.

I’m a little bit more nervous about this display than I was about the Pride Month one. I don’t know. I mean, we have such a long way to go as far as LGBTQ* rights are concerned, but at the very least I feel like it’s something you hear about on a daily basis. Am I wrong? Maybe it’s because I’m in a super liberal NYC bubble or maybe it’s due to the company I keep, but I feel like at least we’re talking about homophobia and equality. Are we talking about body image? Are we telling people, girls especially, that it’s OK to not hate your body? Has that discussion even begun?

It needs to be an every day discussion. Not just in zines and blogs. Body acceptance has to become part of mainstream dialogue. Otherwise, we have no hope against beauty magazines and the media. Zero chance for kids to have a healthy body image.

Sometimes I feel like it’s still so radical to let people know that it’s not OK to make fun of fat/obese/insert euphemism people (of which I count myself as one of). I want tweens and teens to realize that it’s alright to be fat. It’s OK to have big hips or thick legs. It’s alright to not have a supermodel body. And this isn’t just a display for the bigger teens, it’s for all of them. The thinner ones also need to be aware that they don’t need to be constantly dieting for no apparent reason. It’s not necessary to be permanently dissatisfied with your appearance.

I really needed someone to tell all of this to me when I was a (really, really thin) teenager. No one did. I was a mess. So, I’m making it known now.

I’ve already seen two tween boys pointing and laughing at a part of the display that features a fat girl in a bathing suit. It’s disheartening.

I’ve also seen a handful of girls read over the entire display.

Here it is. It’s got lots of tiny details. The ones I didn’t photograph for this post can be found here.

The aforementioned boys made fun of the drawing in the upper right corner. I was pretty upset.
This one is darling. It always makes me smile.
This one is darling. It always makes me smile.
Lumpy Space Princess and I have similar body issues.
Lumpy Space Princess and I have similar body issues.

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The YA Librarians Are Just Not That Into You: Getting Ready for our Anti-Valentine’s Day Party

The Anti-Valentine’s Day party seems to be a staple of Young Adult/Teen librarians, but this is my first ever. I’m still in the planning phase, but so far I’ve decided on including:

Right now, I’m putting up glittery angsty conversation hearts to hopefully get teens interested in showing up to the event. These are now hanging around the YA desk:

don't call me heart

meh heart

no thanks heart

go away

I effed up the lettering on this one, but I think the sentiment is clear:

anti-valentine's day heart

Have you ever held an Anti-Valentine’s Day party? Any suggestions would be appreciated.

~(Anti)Love and Libraries, Ingrid

Me Fangirling Over Libba Bray Like a Total Psycho

Holy hell, y’all. I met Libba Bray today. It was awesome. She signed my book. I’m kvelling. I am acting so damn insufferable because I am so damn excited.


She came to my library to talk about The Diviners, a book of hers I have already thoroughly gushed about. I’ve seen Libba speak before, but it was for a crowd of librarians. Don’t get me wrong, that crowd was absolutely fascinated with her. She described all the research she did  for The Diviners and I was so enthralled, I had to read it right away. While she talked about her research this evening, as well, I really enjoyed the way she talked to our library’s teens. She answered questions about her writing style, NaNoWriMo (which she’s never participated in, but thinks it’s a good way for people to write without censoring themselves), the zombie apocalypse (she said she’d be zombie food), and what superhero power she’d give to Barack Obama (the ability to deal with Republicans). She gave equal attention to the serious and silly questions and was absolutely charming.

Libba discussed some really personal and intimate aspects of past, so personal that I would feel positively creepy sharing them here. It was so quiet as she talked about these things. The teens were totally captivated. I had chills. All I could think was, I’m glad she saying all this. Teens need to hear it. They need to know that sometimes things are just fucking awful, but hard times end. Things can get better. On top of being an incredibly talented author, she’s just a damn good role model. I wish we could steal her for a while in the Youth Wing. Libba would make a kick ass teen librarian. I adore the way she talks to them.

I got to talk to her twice during the night and I’m still blabbing about it. She’s just the jam. I wore a purple sort of 20s style bobbed wig, but she asked to see my pink hair and of course I had to oblige. So that’s why my hair looks so ratchet in the picture. I have smushy freaky wig-hair. So don’t judge. When it was time to take the picture, she said, “You want to act like zombies?”

Um. OK. Yes please.


Also, she was wearing super cute pink sparkly sneakers.

Damn straight I took a picture of our shoes.
Damn straight I took a picture of our shoes.

In conclusion, I love the hell out of her. If you haven’t read The Diviners yet, I’m not sure you and I have anything to talk about. Get reading.

~Love and Libraries, Ingrid

P.S. Full disclosure: I didn’t organize this event; I was just a humble participant. I set up a little fortune telling station at the party. I had a crystal ball and I told the teens that I was in contact with my spirit guide, Reginald, who speaks to me from the other side. I would say things like, “Beware overly dramatic people” and “You have a complicated relationship with your family” and the teens would get all astonished. GUYS. You’re teenagers. You’re all around drama queens and have complicated relationships with your parents, just so you know. I love you anyway. Go read a book.

Your Local Librarian and Feminist Killjoy

Ever read an entire blog from start to finish? That’s what I did with Midge’s blog: Modern Girl Blitz. I love a blog with lots of non-cookie cutter fashion (I’m so sick of fashion bloggers who are obsessed with ModCloth. Why am I reading your blog if you’re just one big advertisement?) and lots of DIY posts. After I finished reading all of Modern Girl Blitz and started shaking from withdrawal, I noticed she had some Etsy shops. Score.

Feminist Killjoy Felt Brooch Set and I'm NO Domestic Goddess Button
Feminist Killjoy Felt Brooch Set and I’m NO Domestic Goddess Button
Zines: Stigma: Bodies and Joy is DIY
The whole to-do.
Zines: Stigma: Bodies and Joy is DIY

Buttons! Zines! The dream of the 90s is alive in my life.

I was wearing my tiny, pink feminist pin today in Arts and Crafts. Seeing it, a teen said:

“OMG. You’re a feminist? WHAT’S A FEMINIST?”

Me: “Part of it is wanting men and women to have equal treatment” 

Teen: “Oh. I’m a feminist”

Best pin ever. Covert education in action.

~Love and Libraries, Ingrid